Elements that can make or break your success!

Do you feel like you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off and you just can’t seem to get focused to get things done in your business?

Do you feel like you are being pulled in too many directions and everyone wants something from you?

Do you feel like you just can keep up with everything you have going on and you are in a state of overwhelm?

Are you ready to hit the ground running with your business but don’t know how to create traction?

I can totally relate to how you feel and here is why!

I just went through a huge move in the last two weeks. I moved from a house that was about 4000 square feet. It had 3 floors, 7 bedrooms, 5 bathrooms, 3 living rooms, 3 dining rooms, 2 kitchens, and more. This house was huge!

I moved into that house 4 years ago because I wanted to help my aunt who was living in a really bad situation in East Vancouver. I had an idea that helping her was a good thing. haha! I don’t know what I was thinking. She needed to have her own suite that had separation from upstairs. You wouldn’t believe how hard it is to rent a whole house and find a place that has a door separating the upstairs and downstairs.

We looked for a solid month and finally we found this huge house just 5 mins from my old place. I was really excited of course because I was one step closer to the city and I was inching my way closer and closer to the city after spending my childhood growing up in the outskirts of Vancouver. I always dreamt of living in the city and being hugely rich and successful.

This house was literally stone’s throw from the boundary of the city. It felt like I was one step from success and wealth. I mean this house had a marble winding staircase. A foyer with a massive chandelier dangling from the 50′ ceiling with a skylight.

My master bedroom had a jetted jacuzzi soaker tub. I had the walk-in closet. The house felt like luxury. It made me feel rich even though I wasn’t there yet. Oh, the parties I was going to have. This house was clearly meant for entertaining. I was so excited to be moving up in the world. I always dreamt of living in a beautiful house like this when I was a child living in a small townhouse, sharing a room with my sister, sleeping on the top bunk.

It all seemed so perfect. I didn’t have enough furniture to fill this beautiful house. I had to get more stuff!

Everyone was so happy for me and of course, loved the house, and encouraged me on the path. No one telling me this was a path that could lead to death and destruction.

Now let’s not forget I hadn’t made it huge in my healing business yet. Awakened Body was still a baby and growing. In fact, in many ways, it still is. At this present moment it’s being reborn online. I didn’t have the money to pay the almost $5000 per month it was going to cost to rent this mansion of a house stone’s throw from the city.

I found a way to make it happen of course because I am determined. My aunt rented the basement suite and we had people rent the other rooms to make up the rest of the rent. I was living in a mansion paying a very small portion if the rent. It was so perfect!

Why doesn’t everyone do this?

You can live in your dream home for a fraction of the cost others pay running themselves into the ground to maintain. I thought I had it figured out. HAHAHA! Again, I had a lot to learn.

I lived in that house for 4 years almost to the day!

Over those 4 years I did host a lot of parties and get togethers. I even did artisan shows. I had a bunch of artisan friends get together and set up tables in my house for free and we invited people to come buys their stuff. Everything they made they got to keep. I just wanted to provide a place for them to sell their stuff.

It worked out well for me, don’t get me wrong. They gifted me beautiful things!

I am walking away from that place with a lot of good memories. There is no doubt about it.

The thing I didn’t know was that I was creating something in my life that was going to really slow me down when it came to the progression of my financial dreams.

That house that I thought was going to get me one step closer to wealth and success was just the opposite.

There were many reasons living in that place was, how do I put this…

a huge learning experience that has massively changed what I want out of life.

The thing about living in that massive house was.

Someone had to clean it!

Which brings me to the first thing that can sabotage your business success

1. Your home

If you are living in a home that is more than you can chew. You are going to become a slave to that house to maintain it. Especially if you don’t have the money to hire someone to clean it. If you did what I did and you bring in a bunch roommates, you are going to have to clean up after them or constantly be on them to help clean. That is a chore in itself. A huge house is a massive time sucker. We are sold the idea that success means a big luxurious house. It’s such a lie. It is just a bigger box to put more stuff than you need in that you now must spend way more time cleaning and maintaining.

I made the choice to downsize big time when I moved this time. I am on the top floor of a normal sized house. The house has 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, 1 living room, 1 dining room (that I am not using as a dining room), 1 kitchen, umm and that is it. We do have a nice big front and back yard though. I can’t believe how perfect it really is. I have only been here for a week, and I already love it. I feel a sense of peace already. Letting go of the stress of knowing I am going to walk down my marble staircase, through the house to the kitchen in the back part of the house to a disaster of a kitchen, that I am going to have to clean before I can even make my morning tea and start my day, is such a relief.

I can clean my kitchen before I go to sleep and when I get up in the morning, walk down the hall to the kitchen to make my cream of earl grey tea, the kitchen is still clean. It’s a miracle!

I have so much less work to do before I can sit down and do what I am inspired to do when I woke up in the morning. This morning I woke up early in the morning. My brain turned on and I started writing this blog post in my mind. I was inspired to write again. It was so exciting. I jumped out of bed at 7:00am. I walked the few steps I must walk, (no staircase at all) to the kitchen. I put water, ice, and daily multi-vitamin supplement in my tumbler. I made my cream of earl grey tea and in 5 minutes I was in front of the computer writing.

That hasn’t happened since I moved into that MASSIVE HOUSE!

I had no idea what a time suck that house was going to be!

Which brings me to the next thing.

2. Time

We need to learn to protect out time as entrepreneurs. Our time is worth money. Wasting time cleaning a big house. Chasing after roommates who are creating way more mess, and not cleaning up after themselves, is such a time killer. The bigger the house, the more people live in it, the bigger the mess that must be cleaned.

I can’t believe how much time I wasted cleaning that kitchen 3 times a day. Constantly picking up after the people in the house. I felt like the only one who cared that the house was clean. In fact, every time I got sick, left town, or got too wrapped up in my work and didn’t clean, my house became a write off.

I was the one who cared the most about the state of the house. This of course turned me into a nag. I had to chase everyone around for 4 years telling them to do their dishes, clean the kitchen, take their packaging from their delivered food to the recycling, clean the bathroom, sweep, and mop the floors, and on and on and on.

It truly never stopped. I felt like a mother of a whole household of children. I only gave birth to one of them and yet somehow, I had many!

It was crazy making.

I know I had heard the concept that your time is worth money. However, I also thought success meant living in a big house. So, I thought I was moving in the right direction getting this massive house. I didn’t realize I was sabotaging myself so hard.

You need to protect your time fiercely. Look at all the things you are doing that are wasting your time. Time you could be spending building your empire.

If you have the money to hire a house cleaner to take care of your place, then get a big place. It’s totally up to you. I personally came to the realization that I never want to live in a large place again. I appreciate the simplicity that comes with a smaller house. I want nice things. That is never going to change. However, the dream I had of living in the city in a big, beautiful house has been released.

My time is more valuable, and I can have everything I want in a smaller home. We don’t realize how much all things we collect to fill a big house that can become a time sucker as well. Wow was it ever an undertaking downsizing.

I didn’t realize how much stuff we had accumulated until we had to go through it all. Sadly, there were things in the house that I had never seen before and had no idea how it had ended up in the house. Everything we didn’t want we donated, sold, or took to the dump.

I am embarrassed to admit how much stuff left the house that I didn’t want. I don’t know how many times we were asking “Is this yours? Do you know who’s this is? Where did this even come from?”

Which brings me to the next thing on the list.

3. Family

I moved into that house to rescue my aunt who I thought needed help. I thought if anyone deserved help when I was able to, it was her. I was wrong. I was very wrong. You can’t rescue anyone. Let me say that first. I think this was the final experience that helped me nail that lesson into place.

We must rescue ourselves.

You can empower, cheerlead, support, and encourage people. Rescuing them however just seems to create a nightmare for everyone every time.

The person who you are rescuing has lessons to learn from the refining fire they are currently in, and they are going to resist you and fight you when you rescue them as a result.

It’s subconscious resistance. There is a piece of them that knows they should be the one to take themselves out of the mud. So, they resist you and even hurt you, run back into the mud and either come out of it on their own or stay there till the day they die. Either way, it’s their life, their lessons and we can’t mess with them.

When I moved my aunt in, she quickly took over the place, telling me how to decorate, and how to clean. She came up at all hours and spent hours talking to us. There were no boundaries at all. Which was totally my fault. I didn’t realize that I needed to establish them.

I ended up writing her an email composed with soooo much thought and care. I even sent it to my sister to make sure there was no emotion involved. I sent an email requesting she ask before coming upstairs. There was more to it than that as there were other things as well. However, I was super respectful about it.

She didn’t like what was written and chose not to talk to me for the duration of the time we lived in that house. For three and a half years she gave me the silent treatment.

My Cariad (Love) Scott had to be the go between during that time. I felt so bad for him but there was nothing I could do about it.

I made the mistake of trying to rescue family before, and I really thought I had learned my lesson. Yet I had done it all over again with my aunt and it blew up in my face.

In hindsight maybe I should have decided to move a lot sooner instead of allowing things go to on for three and a half years the way it did. However, I felt bad for her and didn’t think she could find a better living situation on her own. So, I let it go on for way too long to my detriment.

I swear I have learned my lesson this time. This is the last time I rescue family!

Which leads me to the next thing!

4. Drama

When you live with a lot of people there can be a lot of drama that goes with it. We had to deal with the drama that came along with my aunt. She is very much running drama seeking programs so even though I wasn’t talking to her there seemed to be no stop drama coming from the basement suite that made its way upstairs through Scott.

I was living with a couple as well in the upstairs portion of the house. My one roommate had a serious issue with alcoholism. I didn’t know when she moved in that she had a serious substance abuse issue. It seemed clear that she like to have a drink when she was finished work. We notice quickly that there were beer cans being left all over the house.

Over time we came to realize that she was drinking from the moment she woke up till she passed out at night. Over the time we were living together things got to the point where she ended up having to go to detox. She did one round detox that didn’t stick. A few months later she went back again and went from there, to rehab. She spent 3 months in rehab and while she was there, Scott and I made the choice that we had been through enough and it was time to find a new place for just us.

I had never lived with someone that dealt with substance abuse issues. Neither of my parents were drinkers. We didn’t have cigarettes, alcohol, or drugs in our home at all because we were mormon. I am truly grateful for that to be honest.

It was hard living with an alcoholic. I never want to do that again. It was a great firsthand learning experience for me as a healer though, I will say that.

The drama that came along with my aunt and roommates was a lot and it was a huge time and energy sucker. I have been here all but a week and I can’t believe the change of energy in this little house. The lack of drama is REAL!

Be aware of the people in your life who are seeking and creating drama.

Which brings me to the next thing.

5. Relationships

Do you have any relationships in your life that are sucking your time and energy?

I am very fortunate to have a Cariad (Love) who very much contributes to my life. He has made my life easier since the first day I met him. When I first met Scotty, I was severely concussed from a major car accident. I was single at the time of my car accident. Once in a while I did attempt to go out on a date because I got lonely. Every time I went out with a guy, I regretted it!

They always made my constant headache worse not better. Then my sister introduced me to Scott and for the first time the burden was lighter. I still made him work for 4 months to get me because I wasn’t really interested. My idea of men and love was rather jaded at that point in my life. I wasn’t easy to win over.

We have been together for 8 years now and he really does always lighten the burden and make things easier. He is also my biggest cheerleader. I am blessed to have him in my life.

Ask yourself, does my lover make my life easier or does this person suck my time and energy?

Do what is right for you from a place of self-love!

Do you have friendships that are taking your time and energy?

Since I became a healer, I created healthy boundaries around friendships. I am not friends with people who are not on the path of personal expansion. I just can’t be around people who have “Hound dog on a nail syndrome” I find because I am always talking about healing and expanding, people who are in a victim mentality find it difficult to be around me. It challenges their state too much and if they want to keep blaming the world for their circumstances, I am not good for them.

You might find there are friends you have that are constantly surrounded by drama. You might have a friend or two that do nothing but whine and complain about all the horrible things that are going on in the world and their life.

You might have friends who are always calling you to get you to help them with one thing or another and you find yourself feeling really drained after conversations or after spending time with them.

In the interest of protecting your time and energy. Look at those people are in your life. Even make a list. Really look at whether these people are contributing to your life and helping you create more energy to be successful or if they are to your detriment.

Are they taking your energy and time and wasting them?

Do you wonder where the time went when you see them?

Do you find yourself going into a time warp in a bad way?

Do you come out feeling like there is so much you could have done that you didn’t get done and now your way behind?

From a place of self-love maybe it’s time for a friendechtomy!

6. Self-Worth

When I was working as an esthetician in a little spa in 2012, I wanted more for my life. I dreamt of helping people on a much deeper level. My self-worth and fear of failure is what paralyzed me.

It wasn’t till my car accident and being forced to survive that I created a life that I dreamed I would live. I was forced to show myself what I was made of.

Before I lived in the big, beautiful house a stone’s throw from the city, I didn’t see myself worthy of it.

I am not going to lie I was in disbelief when I first stepped foot into the house to see it. I didn’t think the owner would accept me. To my surprise I locked down the house right away with no issues. It was too easy!

When I moved in, I felt like the house was beyond me.

“Rich people live here not me.”

“I’m not successful enough to live here.”

“I don’t deserve this.”

“I’m a fraud and everyone in the neighbourhood is going to know I don’t belong here.”

After living there for 4 years I realized that it’s just a house. We are told it gives us status. It’s a really huge trap!

Living there doesn’t make me better than anyone else. Living in that neighbourhood doesn’t make those people better than anyone else.

We tie so much of our self-worth to how we are presenting ourselves.

Our job, house, car, beautiful husband/wife, children, designer clothes, PhD, and of course we must make it rain money.

None of that is truly what give you a sense of self-worth. You come to realize it when you have it all and yet you still feel lack. It’s not enough. You must do more, be more, have more. It never stops.

Nothing you earn, buy, or acquire from an outside source is going to give you self-worth. Which is why you are never going to feel satisfied.

I should know!

On my healing journey after my car accident, I came to the realization that resolution comes from within. Self-worth comes from knowing that I am a Goddess, a Divine Being with a greater purpose than to consume.

I am here to flood the earth with love. That is my mission!

What I buy, earn, and acquire means nothing in the end if I haven’t done that.

Discovering what I decided to do before I came down to this earth changed my focus. It’s not about consuming for recognition anymore. It’s not about being worthy of things on this planet.

The only question I am asking myself is “What is the next step I have to take to flood the earth with love before I die?”

My worth is firmly rooted within, which means I love myself without having to ask anyone if I am worthy. I will no longer as permission or forgiveness. I don’t need anyone’s permission to be a sexy Goddess!

I will unapologetically live in my truth and walk the path I designed for myself in my Divine State being fully connected to Universal Truth, knowing All!

My security is within knowing that I can survive anything after coming out of that car accident. My external circumstances can change, and I know I will always be ok. My house can burn down, and I will find a new place to live. My relationships can end, and I will create new ones.

There is no point in creating security externally as nothing is static. Anything external can change. You can buy a house and an earthquake, fire, tsunami, tornado can take it down. We could have a recession and you will be forced to walk away from your home because all your investments are suddenly worth nothing.

You can get married till death do you part to create security. Ten years later your life partner who made a vow to love and cherish you till death do you part betrays you by sleeping with someone who is validating them in a way you aren’t. Suddenly you find yourself destroyed, in a messy divorce, fighting for guardianship of your children, splitting up assets and making lawyers rich.

When security comes within you can have an inner peace knowing that nothing is permanent, and you have what it takes to always survive whatever is thrown at you.

You got this baby cakes!

7. Your Job!

Do you have a job?

Do you feel a calling to do something to make the world a better place?

Are you working towards a dream so you can quit your job and do it full time?

Maybe you haven’t even started to work towards your dream, and you are telling yourself when the time is right you are going to take the leap!

If you are feeling that calling and you are working a full-time job, or maybe even more than full time job, it’s sabotaging you!

Think about how much more time you could be spending creating success if you didn’t have to spend 40–90 hours per week at your job.

The average person puts 40 hours per week into someone else’s dream. People like my Cariad (Love) Scott work 90 hours a week in film. At the end of the day all he has time for is not enough sleep and then he’s back to it.

I promise I am going to retire him.

I am not telling you to quit your job right this second. However, I want you to be clear that you job is slowing you down.

If you are feeling a calling, there’s a reason love!

You are a…Love Warrior!

You are hinting to yourself that you are here to do more!

More than whatever you are doing.

Let me ask you a question.

Does what you’re doing fill your soul?

Do you wake up before the alarm to start doing The Thing?

I DO!!!

I didn’t even have an alarm set cause it’s Sunday, and I woke up at 7:00am because I was inspired and needed to get up and write.

If you said no to both of those questions, maybe it’s time to create an exit plan.

Don’t you think you deserve to do something that really makes you happy?

If you aren’t there yet, that’s totally ok.

Start on a Self-Love Journey. When you are there and you are ready to jump off the cliff and grow your wings on the way down, then jump and invest in that passion project.

If you want to invest in your dreams full time at some point, then sit down and really map out how that is going to happen.

What steps are you going to have to take to quit your job and live off your dream project?

How long is it realistically going to take?

I know some people who just gave notice at their job and figured it out. They pulled the safety net out from under their feet, so they had to sink or swim.

One of my girlfriends moved from Vancouver to Bali. Quit her 10-year career in make-up artistry. In Bali she had no connections to fall back on to get a make-up gig. She started a life coaching business and had to pay her bills doing it or starve.

She has now lived all over the world and has a thriving coaching business and currently lives in Mexico.

So, you have three choices.

1. Go on a Self-Love Journey
2. Create and exit plan and DO IT!
3. Quit your job and sink or swim

Ok, let’s revisit the 7 ways we sabotage ourselves in business again, shall we?

1. Your home

Choose a home that is easy to care for. Create a sanctuary, a place of peace where you can focus and get work done.

2. Time

Protect your time fiercely. Figure out how much your time is worth per hour. If the thing you are thinking about doing is worth less than you would get paid to do it, delegate.

3. Family

Ask yourself…

Are there are family members I am trying to please?

Am I holding back for fear of family judgement?

Are any family members I am trying to rescue to my detriment?

You are no one’s performing monkey. Do what is right for you and let them judge.

Let go of trying to rescue your family. Invest in YOU! Love and encourage your family to thrive and let them rescue themselves.

4. Drama

Ask yourself…

Is there anyone in my life that is bringing drama?

Do I have any drama seekers in my life?

Do I have any people in my life that have hound dog on a nail syndrome?

Cut them out, distance yourself, create boundaries, protect yourself! If there are people in your life that you love very much that are in this headspace, create boundaries to protect yourself and your energy. You deserve space, peace to have clarity to create brilliance.

5. Relationships

Ask yourself…

Are all the relationships in my life lifting me up, nourishing me, supporting me on my path to make the world a better place?

If they are then “Way to go!”

If there are relationships you are aware of that are taking your time and energy, end them, or create boundaries.

Do what is right for you and don’t apologize!

You don’t have to apologize for doing what you must do to protect yourself so you can life your life’s purpose.

BE SELFISH!!!!

Choose yourself first, take care of yourself, your health and wellness. When you are overflowing with love and energy, you can support those you love and want to hold space for.

6. Self-worth

Ask yourself…

“DO I UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE MYSELF?”

If the answer is no, start walking the path to work towards that and everything else will fall into place as you find your worth. If you don’t know where to look, I will give you resources to take the first step.

7. Your job

Ask yourself…

Is this job the thing I want to do till I retire?

When I am on my death bed and I look back, will I be happy that I did _______________ with my life?

If you said no to both of those questions, NOW is the time to make a change!

Take the first step towards living a life that feeds your soul.

Resources:

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All the Unconditional Love,

Harmony Woodington C.Ht.

Do you struggle in connecting with people for one reason or another?

Do you find that people don’t like you for some reason and you just don’t know why?

Do you feel like maybe people are just jealous of you because of your looks and success?

I can relate, and here is why!

Most of my life I really struggled to create close relationships with other women. For some reason they just didn’t like me. They acted like I was a threat, and those relationships were full of conflict. Not knowing better, I assumed that they were jealous because I was beautiful so they thought I was a homewrecker and wanted to keep me away from their men. It was the only explanation I had back then!

Then, when I wasn’t even trying, a miracle happened that forever changed my interaction with other women. In 2012, I was in a car accident that knocked me out of my career as a full-time esthetician.

Shortly thereafter, while I was struggling to recover, my mother convinced my 14-year-old son to leave me to live with her. She promised him junk food, non-stop video games, no school, and all the not-so-healthy things that are so enticing to a teenager. It broke my heart that he chose to leave me. Soon after that, my father attempted suicide. I felt totally broken and just… lost.

That painful series of events started me on the healing journey that changed my life. I finally focused on creating a relationship with myself. I learned to love and embrace myself. In creating Self-Love, I created confidence and knew my worth, which changed my energy. I noticed that other women started to look up to me. They were drawn to me and wanted to get to know me. How was I so at peace, confident, and self-loving? They wanted to know my story and learn from me.

Suddenly, female relationships came to me with ease.

To be honest, it wasn’t something I was deliberately working on, so I didn’t notice the shift right away. However, one day it hit me that I was surrounded by female friends. I had never experienced this before!

I had been studying to become a Hypnotherapist, where I learned about behaviour and communication between people on a subconscious level. I realized that the conflict I had been experiencing with other women was really on me. Because I had been so insecure, they saw me as a threat to their relationships.

For most of my life, I was insecure and self-loathing. I had no sense of self-worth. When I met a woman, she would subconsciously pick up on my insecurity and her alarm bells would go off. Women could sense that I was insecure, so they didn’t trust me around their men, and would avoid me.

Let me explain this another way. I have a few birds at home. Birds understand that they’re prey. In the wild, they always have to be on the watch because there are many creatures that see them as a great snack. Birds have developed see-through eyelids so that even when they’re sleeping, they can see movement around them.

They are also very energy sensitive — they always seem to be aware of what you’re feeling — they have to be for their own safety. When you’re angry, birds might react and bite you. I am very comfortable around my birds, so they’re at ease with me. However, if a new person they meet feels nervous, so do the birds.

Let’s use Rocky, my African Grey, as an example. Rocky is between 12–16 inches tall, which is still tiny compared to even a human. We have about 5’ on a Grey like Rocky. He’s also very fragile — he has hollow bones, and it would be easy for a person to kill a bird of that size.

Rocky knows that he’s prey. He knows that the new person is a lot bigger than him. Rocky doesn’t know what that nervous person is going to do — he might bite the person to protect himself from the potential threat.

My Grey is a gentle sweetheart. When I pass him to a person who is nervous he will look at me, asking to come back — he can tell that the person holding him doesn’t feel confident. If the person is open and not afraid, Rocky will chill peacefully on the person’s hand. There is no verbal interaction between them. This exchange is totally energetic.

I was bringing that same energy exchange to the women I met. Unlike my birds, I wasn’t going to bite their hands, but when I was insecure, they felt the need to protect themselves. When I developed self-love and confidence, women I met no longer felt the need to protect themselves. They were feeling my energy. I was at peace and full of love. This immediately put them at peace. They wanted what I had!

All of this happens on a subconscious level below our awareness. Our intellect puts us on the top of the food chain. However, if you were out in the forest and you ran into a bear, all of a sudden you would respond on an energetic level to survive. This is called “Fight or Flight”.

When I had that AH HAH! moment, I realized that I was the cause of the discord with other women. I also realized that I could create the energy I wanted in my own energy field. That way when a person came and interacted with me, I would be able to control the energy in the space.

There were more AH HAH! moments. I realized that I could communicate with myself and become Energetically Intelligent. I became more aware of my own energy and I learned how it works. I learned how to control it so the people who came into my energetic field were bathing in love and they didn’t even know it on a conscious level. It has totally changed the way people perceive and treat me.

This is how I Created A Love Arena. It has changed my life and I want to share these strategies with you to change your life too!

You can use your energy to create whatever arena you want. But the highest vibration, most powerful energy that you can create is Love.

Let’s break it down:

Here is the framework for how to create a love arena.

1. Become aware of how your energy works
2. Understand what an aura is and how it functions
3. Learn how to control the energy in your aura
4. Learn how to maintain you energy

Let’s look at each aspect and break it down so that you can start to do this for yourself.

1. Become Aware of How Your Energy Works

First You are a Divine Being having a Human experience. Your spirit, essence, and soul house your body. Not the other way around. Your physical being is much smaller than your spirit, which extends many feet outside of your physical being. When a person is in your energetic field, their energy is interacting with your soul. The aspect of your soul that exists outside of your physical being is called the Aura.

So what people are doing when they are in each other’s energetic space is communicating with each other’s souls. WOAH THAT’S DEEP!

This interaction happens on a subconscious level. We make choices and take actions that we aren’t even aware of unless the person’s energy is very intense. As a child, I had experiences being out with my mother and noticing that a person seemed really creepy.

Let’s take that interaction and break it down even further so you can get closer to owning and controlling your own energy, spirit, soul, aura.

2. Understand What an Aura Is and How It Functions

You now know your Spirit, Soul, or Energy Field is the Aura. Let’s talk about how the Aura’s functions. From my own discovery I have found that the part of your soul that extends beyond your physical body has two functions. It can be broken down into two sections.

1. Inner Aura
2. Outer Aura

The inner aura is the section of your aura that extends from the body outwards that creates your personal space. How many inches that is tends to be dictated by the environment you live in. Places like Canada, and in the country a person is going to have a larger personal space bubble than a person who lives in large heavily populated cities and countries like China, Japan, Thailand.

If you think about personal space and how it tends to function. You find yourself feeling uncomfortable when someone breaks into that barrier when you haven’t been allowed to go through the process of getting to know them and making a decision as to whether you feel that you are safe to be in close quarters with.

Your inner aura functions like an alarm system, a protection field. It’s the aspect of your aura that protects you against physical and energetic attacks. I know you are aware of the physical space and it being infringed upon. Have you ever thought that it is also there to protect you and make you aware of any energetic attacks that a person might be sending your way?

People send negative energy, thoughts and even wish harm on others not knowing how powerful their thoughts are. There are people and cultures that practice dark magic and deliberately send curses, energetic attacks, and even call on entities to mess with others they wish harm upon.

I find so many cultures are aware of and totally accept and use dark magic except the white peeps in North America. It could be because our culture doesn’t have the deep routes that many other countries and cultures do. North America was also founded on Christianity which doesn’t really recognize the presence of dark magic.

The Outer aura is the aspect of your soul that continues to extend beyond your personal space. This section of the aura is what interacts with others who are in your space. Your outer aura could extend from 8 feet to encompass the planet if you chose to extend it that much. When speaking on stage and sharing your passion you can fill the arena with your aura and have everyone in that space bathe in your energy. Which can be a very powerful thing if you are energetically intelligent and have filled your outer aura with love.

So, let’s recap. Your inner aura is for your awareness and protection. Your outer aura is for interacting with others.

Now that you have an understanding of how your soul, aura functions I would like to talk to you about how you can dictate it to function for your benefit.

3. Learn How to Control the Energy in Your Aura

Inner Aura

To work with your inner aura first look at it being an alarm system that is there to protect you. An alarm system has a way of notifying you when there is a threat. Seeing as this is your personal alarm system, you get to dictate with your consciousness what you want that alarm systems notification to be.

In working with clients, I have suggested either a song popping into your mind or a very specific visual. Use a song that doesn’t usually pop into your mind on a regular basis. As for visuals you could use an animal or a superhero emblem or something that will be a clear indicator to you and will pop out as a clear message to you that there is a threat.

What you are going to do is first decide what that alarm system mechanism is going to be and then you are going to take a time out and meditate. In a state of meditation see or hear that symbol or song playing and dictate to your inner aura that this is the sign you will receive anytime there is an energetic threat.

Then let’s look at the other aspect of your inner aura.

Protection- You can program your inner aura to function in a way that it will protect you when energetic attacks are sent your way as well as alert you. Keeping in mind that you want to allow love and positive energy to come your way, you want to think of something you can use that will flow energy allowing positive energy in and negative energy to flow out.

It’s only natural to think of a protection field being something like a brick or steel wall. The challenge with that is, it blocks positive energy as well.

Now if you think about something that flows and allows good energy to flow in and negative energy to flow out what could that be?

Does anything come to mind?

If not let me suggest something to you.

The elements flow. Water, fire, air, ether. Maybe stay away from earth. These will serve your purpose very nicely unless you have something else in mind.

When you have that in mind you are going to be in a state of meditation, seeing your inner aura becoming the visual of your choosing. Then you will communicate to your inner aura that it will allow love and positive energy in and flow out and release negative energy.

Once you have done that you are set. Your inner aura is there to protect you and alert you when there is a threat.

Outer Aura

Your outer aura being the aspect of your aura that is interacting with others needs to be looked after so you are communicating with people in a way that benefits you. When you are unaware of your outer aura and how it is communicating. You are sending energetic messages to people that they are receiving on a subconscious level that is dictating their decision and actions toward you and they don’t even know why.

The last thing you want is to be sabotaging yourself with your own energy. Becoming energetically intelligent is a very important piece of creating your desired results in business and in all aspects of life.

Seeing as your outer aura is you, it’s going to be vibing whatever emotions you are vibing. So, if you are a person who is driven by hate and anger as a result of the life you have lived. You are using that hate and anger to create change and you feel you are justified in using that anger as fuel, you are going to have an outer aura filled with that hate and anger. People who come into your energy field are going to be bathing in those feelings which are low vibration, and they are going to make a decision on a subconscious level that they don’t want to be around you, work with you, be friends with you, be your lover etc. Unless there is something about them that attracts that energy because of their own past pain and trauma. In general, you are going to repel people with the energy of hate and anger.

If you are a victim and you believe that everything happens to you. The world is out to get you. You are fearful, guarded and believe that everyone is out to get you, and no one is safe. Anyone who interacts with you is going to feel your resistance and fear. Not knowing what you are going to do with those feelings of fear and the need to self-protect, they will in turn subconsciously put up a protection field as well because there is going to be something about you that doesn’t feel safe.

This is why you create what you are putting out. People you interact with are feeling your energy and reacting on a subconscious level.

I am giving you the opportunity to become aware of this interaction on a conscious level and to take control of your own energy.

Choose what energy you want the people you interact with so you can create the results you desire.

What do you think would be the best energy for people to be surrounded by?

What energy do you think is going to create your desired income?

I’m going to let you take a wild guess just for fun and then I will tell you.

The best energy to bathe people that will always support you winning in life is…

LOVE!

Create a Love Arena!

Again, if we look at your outer aura being you. The way to do that is to work on yourself so that you ARE LOVE!!!

You need to become love. That way 98% of the time you are vibing love. The only time you’re not is when you are triggered and low energy for some reason. The way to do that of course is to heal, expand and create a powerful loving relationship with yourself. Self-Love is where it starts and from that place of self-love you can share that love with others when they are in your outer aura.

Yes I know this is not a simple answer. Sometimes the answer of how to create a result isn’t as simple as abc, 123. Sometimes there is a path and work that has to be done.

Weight release and creating a healthy beautiful body is the same. Many people would love to be able to just pop pills, eat pizza, chips, drink pop and still somehow end up sex on a stick. It just doesn’t work that way. If you want to be healthy and sexy you have to eat healthy food and you have to exercise your body to make it sexy and strong. It’s such a simple formula and yet it’s not easy either. It takes time, dedication and hard work. That is why there are always going to be people selling pills. There are always going to be people looking for the easy answers.

Creating a love arena is the same. There is no easy answer to make your soul vibrate with love. You have to do the work to heal, expand and love yourself. Simple and yet hard work.

Now that you have the answers about how to manage your aura, let’s look at how you can maintain your energy.

4. Learn How to Maintain Your Energy

Our energy isn’t static which means that it is going to change with you and your moods. If you are triggered or are in a bad mood, if you are sick and weak for any reason, your alarm system and the flow of your energy which is your soul will be compromised.

So, let’s talk about how you can maintain your alarm system and protection field. When you are sick and compromised your energy will drop. When you are triggered, angry, sad, grieving your energy will change. Over time if you don’t keep an eye on and maintain your energy, what you have created will be lost. Once you expand and become aware, it’s important to keep focusing, expanding, learning and self-communicating.

Another thing you can do is self-communicate every solstice and equinox to ensure that your energy is high, and everything is flowing just as it should. Your body has needs that change with the seasons and what foods are available, your energy has the same needs and always needs attention and maintenance.

Now that you are aware of how things work energetically are, I would like to challenge you to take charge of your energy and see what it does for you in your interaction with others.

I am honoured to hold space for you and to teach you what I have spent many years learning and discovering. I hope what I teach you expedites your expansion and helps you on the road to investing in your dreams.

If you want to learn more about working with me please go to www.harmonywoodington.com or you can click on this link https://calendly.com/awakenedbody/discovery-session to book a FREE Discovery Session.

Harmony Woodington C.Ht.

Do you listen to your womb when it speaks?

I have been called recently to write about my journey with my womb. I just so happened to have started a blog so I have a space to share my story.

It all starts when I was 16 years old. I was at school in grade 11. My friends had all gotten breasts, bras, periods, under arm hair, curves, all all that fun stuff.

I at 16 years old couldn’t relate to any of them. I was still 5’9″ and totally a coat hanger for clothes. I had no curves at all. I was told by my family that I was going to have a run way model body. Now in the 90’s the models were all very skinny and typically not so healthy.

I wasn’t of course upset at the comparison that was being made. I mean being told that I was going to end up looking like a run way model has to make any young woman feel good.

Just like any other young woman, I was wondering when I would become a real woman. Then one day, I was about 16 and a half-ish, it hit me. I was hit with pain in my abdomen that I had never felt before. I didn’t know if I had an upset stomach or what what going on. I went to the washroom and there was blood. I knew that it was my period and I knew it was what I was waiting for, but I didn’t know what to do and I was unprepared to deal with it. I rolled tissue into a ball and put it in my underwear so I could make it home without making a mess on my pants.

When I made it home which was just a 10 min walk. I told my mother what was going on and she went my brother to the store and he got me pads. I was way to scared to stick something up inside me. I had no connection with my body at all.

I started using pads and after about 3 months I got really sick of feeling distracted my whole period by the feeling of blood leaking out of me. I just found the whole experience gross. My mother of course gave me IB Prophen for the cramps.

Right from the first day I got my period the cramps were really bad for a day or two. I was told that all I had to do was take drugs and the pain would go away and I could go back to school.

When I decided that I didn’t like the feeling of my flow I got brave and started using tampons. I was able to totally disconnect from my pain and my flow with drugs and tampons. I just had to remember to take the tampons out after so many hours so I didn’t give myself toxic shock. No big deal!

Right from the start I was taught to and was seeking a way to disconnect and cope with what my body was doing. I have to admit that when I got pregnant with my son at 19 I connected a lot more with my body as I experienced having a little human life growing inside me. That was amazing.

I did get midwives and a Doula (birth coach) and I had my son Winston at home. At the time in 1999 when I had him it was unheard of to have midwives and most people had no clue what a midwife or doula ever was.

Many people told me when I was pregnant with Winston that I was going to die trying to give birth to my son at home. Including my family doctor. After I had my son she refused me post natal care.

It’s crazy because now in 2021 it’s totally normal to want to have midwives a doula and a home birth. At the time though I was a trend setter and everyone had something to say about my crazy choices.

Oh it also wasn’t cool to breast feed either so I was going against the grain wanting to do that as well. That is a whole story in itself. Maybe one day I will share my birth story. Despite people’s advice I had a perfect labor and my son was born right on time July 2,1999. He was 8lbs 3/10 of an ounce. Oh ya he was born at 2:44am. I was hoping he would be a Canada Day baby but he chose to come almost 3 hours late. So he was born the day after.

I really disconnected from my period my whole adult life until I ended up getting Mirena. It’s an IUD that is inserted into your uterus. It releases a hormone that stops you from getting pregnant. It also shuts down your period. I was 35 when I had Mirena implanted. Getting it done was really rough. I stood up after the doctor put it in and I almost blacked out. I had to wait like 20 mins till I could even get dressed to leave the room. Then they took me to a bed that was on the floor outside of the room and gave me orange juice and let me rest.

The rest of the day I was out of commission. It really isn’t a big devise but my body didn’t like it at all when it was implanted into my uterus. You think I would have clued in.

NOPE!

My body stopped flowing after what felt like a period that lasted forever and that was it for 5 years. I really didn’t notice anything out of the ordinary. I was totally even keel. My emotions were balance, I was healthy. I didn’t think about it again until it was time to take it out. You can only have the IUD in for 5 years and then you have to take it out and have another one implanted.

I had such a hard time with the implantation that I was really nervous about having it taken out. My man Scotty, came to the clinic with me when I had to have it taken out. He was there for me when it was put in so he was prepared for the fact that I might be a mess.

When they took it out it was actually quick and easy and I was totally fine. It had been 5 years since I had felt my womb talk and flow. I was very unfamiliar with the pain and everything that went along with it.

Walking into having a flow again after so long really made me think about how I wanted to approach it. I decided to question what I had been taught in my youth. Being 40 years old I had gone through having a child as well as being sexually active for more then 20 years. I was a lot more mature about my body. I also was an esthetician for 10 years and during that time did a lot of brazillian waxing. That really helped me get over my own insecurities about my Sugarbox.

I had always used drugs and tampons except for that first 3 months where I had used pads. I swore I would never do that again cause it was too gross.

I wanted to really connect with my body and listen to my womb. I have been on a healing, expansion journey since 2012 and I saw this as another way to expand.

I had heard about Diva Cups from girlfriends and seen ads for them. They seemed like a healthy alternative to collect my flow that allowed me to function and didn’t expose my womb to chemicals or potential toxic shock.

It also allowed me to connect more with my own flow.

Then I thought about the question “To drug or not to drug?”

I have never been a person to abuse substance, but I didn’t think anything of taking pain killers because of how I was raised. It was never a big deal to take Tylenol or IB Prophen when I had pain. I did naturally try to avoid taking pain killers for head aches but didn’t think anything of taking it for period cramps.

So, this time I decided I am going to do things differently. I chose to listen to my body when it chose to talk to me. I wanted to reconnect with the pain, my flow, my womb.

I wanted to really hold space and listen to her for the first time in my life.

I have been doing so for a year now and it’s been an epic journey to be honest with you.

Every month has been different. The pain changes from month to month. My emotional state is so different from flow to flow. There have been months where I have been all “Death and destruction to the world. I am going to burn down the whole village.”

There have been months where all I want to do is cry and I feel I am deeply grieving and emotional. I am super sucky and want my man close to me.

My periods are a roller coaster of pain and emotions which is super fun.

One of the amazing things that I noticed was that my emotions and personality were kicked up 10 notches after having the IUD taken out. I realized that for 5 years the IUD was censoring my personality.

Another thing became very clear to me. My sex drive was also effected by the IUD. I though that I had a pretty high sex drive but I was wrong. After I got the IUD out, my drive went through the roof. My sex drive was so intense that I took over my thoughts and it was all could think of and all I wanted.

I felt like a teenager at 40. It was overwhelming and distracting but not in a bad way. I totally embraced it!

It feels good to have a drive like that going into your 40’s.

It showed me just how much the IUD was really effecting my emotions, personality and sex drive.

Everything was turned down and I didn’t realize it until I was free.

Now that I have gone through this process, I have to say, “I would never ever do it again.”

I am done sacrificing my body. Right now at this present time I am free of all hormonal treatments and I am my true self. I am enjoying the roller coaster right and really seeing who I am unfiltered and MAXIMUM EFFORT!

I am not going to lie my periods are very painful and I am forced to spend a day or on the couch with a hot water bottle, tea, chocolate, snacks, and a nice warm blanket.

I have a purpose and I am on a journey now though. I am on a mission to create a relationship with my womb. To next level my connection with my flow, my hormones, my emotions, my sexuality.

I have to say that I am loving being in my 40’s. I have a confidence and self love that I didn’t have when I was in my 20’s. I am comfortable in my body and with my body. In fact for the first time in my life I can say “I love my Goddess body!”

I have a knowing that I didn’t have when I was younger. I know my purpose in this life (I am here to flood the earth with Love!) To put the icing on the cake I think I look sexier than I did when I was in my 20’s.

If there is anything that I would say to 16 year old Harmony if I had the chance to sit down with her before she got her first period it would be this:

“Harmony you are going to experience something that is going to change your life and connect you to the cycle of life.

You have something inside you that creates life.

It is your power center!

It’s where you birth children and create beautiful ideas to bring to the world. It’s called your womb. She has a mind of her own. When she starts talking to you it’s going to be painful, bloody, messy and challenging. It’s going to change every month as well.

This is a time for you to stop and hold space for her. Listen to her and what she has to say. What she wants to flow and release. She holds pain, trauma and emotions for you. Let her talk and release it.

She will also one day hold a little life that will be birthed into the world that will become your reason for existing. Everything you do will be driven by the beautiful being that your womb is going to to grow and birth for you.

Use this beautiful womb to not only create life but to grow and birth ideas into the world. You are a unique and beautiful young woman with a brilliant mind.

Own your power center and work with it to bring what only you can bring to the world. In time you will discover your purpose and work with your womb to fulfill it.

You are going to be encouraged to mute your womb with drugs. You will be encouraged to use things like tampons that will disconnect you from your flow and your body.

I encourage you to use tools like a Diva Cup that will keep you connected and won’t expose you to chemicals or toxic shock.

Allow your hormones to flow and let yourself be the truly wild uncensored wild cat you are.

Be ok with the anger you feel and find a safe space to breath flames. Allow yourself to cry if you feel sad.

Allow yourself to be free in your sexuality and find a loving partner who will hold space for you to expand and enjoy that beautiful journey that is your sexual expansion.

Make your womb your best friend and you will fulfill your purpose and live your life with much greater ease knowing yourself.

Your Power is in your sexuality so don’t ever let anyone take and control it. Own your sexuality and let yourself flow and your connection to your power will flow.

I love you and I hope you can walk into your first flow feeling empowered knowing how to approach your first conversation with your womb. This is a relationship. Start it off on the right foot by listening to her when she talks. You got this my love!”

My words of advice for Harmony and really any young woman on the verge of womanhood. The words I wish my mother had spoken to me so I wasn’t left unarmed walking into a bloody mess.

That being said I wouldn’t change anything about my journey it had made me who I am today. There isn’t a thing I would change about the Goddess I have grown to become. I do want to share my story if per chance a young woman happens to read it and I am able to help her reach empowerment just a little but or perhaps a lot faster.

In conclusion I hope that sharing my story helps Goddesses who are on a journey with their womb and men who are holding space for a Goddess. It means a lot of have a man who is loving and supportive of the Goddess, her womb, the pain she creates and power she holds.

Harmony Woodington C.Ht.

At what point do we abandon our dreams?

So I am going to expose myself by saying I am in my 40’s. Which I am happy to do cause I make 40 look like the new 30. I notice being around people who are in that age bracket that there is something going on.

People have stopped dreaming. There seem to be many people who have hit there 40’s and have let go of the idea of doing something special, unique, making a mark in their lifetime. They have accepted their life working 9–5 and just decided they may as well just keep it going cause they have money and benefits and a decent retirement package and there is no point in doing anything to mess it up.

Maybe they will do something when they retire. Probably not!

When I ask a person in their 40’s what they are passionate about I seem to get one of two responses.

1. I don’t know.
2. There are so many thing I am passionate about. Let me list them all.

When I ask the same age group what their dreams are the responses follow the same theme.

1. I stopped doing that. What’s the point!
2. I have so many dreams and so little time.

If you are a dreamer and you have all the dreams and you are working towards them. Congratulations!

Keep it up and make all those dreams come true.

If you have given up and stopped dreaming, I have a message for you.

It’s not too late to dream. It’s not to late to do something special. It’s not too late to invest in the thing you dreamed about doing when you were younger.

In fact, you are still young. If someone told you you are old when you turn 40 and gave you the idea it’s too late to do something. That you should have started in your 20’s, they are dead wrong.

Get off you toosh and allow yourself to lay in the field, stare at the clouds and start dreaming again.

Dreaming is such an important part of life. When you stop dreaming, you might just start to lose your will to live.

A lot of men who retire in their 60’s tend to not live much past retiring because they have lost their purpose, in turn their will to live.

Having dreams and a purpose is so incredibly important.

I know there are things that you wanted to do to change the world when you were fresh out of high school and feeling optimistic.

One thing has changed. Well that is a lie. Many things have changed.

There is one thing that really matters however.

You are mature, wise, and you have life experience.

You can go one of two ways with that life experience.

1. What’s the point, nothing ever works out.
2. I am going to start now and create something that is going to make a mark and leave a legacy. I have no idea how to start. I know there is something I have to do though and I am going to do it.

Do you remember when you were young and you had no limitations?

I was watching a toddler the other day when I was out driving with my son running errands. He was prob about 2. He was walking along the sidewalk on a cement barrier that was about a foot off the ground. Out of no where he full on, maximum effort bailed on the ground. Without hesitation he bounced back up and immediately got back up on the cement barrier and continued walking along it like nothing had happened.

There was a time when we didn’t let the fear of pain and failure hold us back from doing the things we wanted to do, were curious about. We were just like that adorable little toddler, FEARLESS!

Now the thought of pain and failure paralyses us to the point where we don’t even start.

What if you lived life like that toddler?

What if you had an idea and just said “YES”

If you fall get back up and walk on that wall again.

The key is to stay positive and adjust when you fall so you create a different result.

I believe in you!

I know that you are a Powerful Divine Being and you have a purpose whether you have discovered it or not.

I want to see you share your light with the world.

Can you believe in yourself enough to play?

I hope you will.

If so, get yourself a journal or if you have one already every night before you go to bed list 3 or more things you are doing every day to create your dreams.

Writing this in a journal will help you make your dreams a reality as well as hold you accountable to keep working towards them.

Your dreams matter so much and we want to see what you have to bring to us, the world.

Please play with us!

All the Love,

Harmony Woodington C.Ht.

Do you ever just admire how amazing you are?

List at least three things, but feel free to list way more if you feel like it!

How do you feel about YOU?

If I asked you to list 10 things about yourself that you love would it be a breeze or would it be like pulling teeth?

I remember the first time I was asked to do this, it was like pulling teeth. I wasn’t confident at all and I couldn’t think of that many good things about me.

I have done this exercise with clients so many time and in the beginning of the program it’s a huge challenge to do this. However at the end of the program they have a long list of things they love about themselves and could make a list of 100 things they love about themselves.

It took me walking the healing path to develop that love and appreciation for myself. Now I am my biggest fan!

When you practice praising yourself and valuing all of the amazing things that make you unique it builds your confidence. It also put the focus on self exploration. I got to know myself better exploring the great things about me. I was also inspired to learn and do more. I wanted to add to that list.

Now I am an education junkie. I am always taking courses and learning something new. Currently I am becoming a tea sommelier and I am studying Mentalism.

If you are already very self-loving. listing 3 or more things you love about yourself is going to be really easy. That is fantastic. Then keep going until you run out of things to list.

If you aren’t self-loving and you haven’t found your value there is a great way to get started. Talk to the people around you that you love and care about. Ask them for feedback. Ask those people what they love about you? What makes you special?

It gives you a great chance to see what people think of you. I find the feedback can be life altering.

If you have a journal every night before you go to sleep, list 3 or more things you love about yourself. After a month take a moment and access how easy it was to make that list and how you feel about yourself.

You are a Beautiful, Powerful, Divine Being!

Own Your Greatness!

All the Love,

Harmony Woodington C.Ht.